It is said that Life is all about making choices. At every stage of our life, we might see different options and we tend to choose the best one for ourselves. But, do we really choose the best one? Not sure about it. At that very moment, whatever our mind or heart directs us, we pick the one thinking we are very sure about the choice we had made. Whether that choice seems to be the perfect one for the rest of your life is always a puzzle. For few of our choices, we might feel proud and really happy that we did it. But there would always be circumstances or instances in life when we are forced to re-think about few choices we had made in our past, which surely has an impact now or might have some influence in the coming future. But when we come across such situations in life, do we have an option to change the selection we had made earlier? Obviously no. Then why do we even have to think or talk about it? Definitely, we cannot change what was already picked up or done by us, but there is always a possibility to learn from that wrong choice made and give our best, if at all life gives us a second chance. Sometimes I wonder if all of us are really lucky to get another chance in life. The answer might be a yes or a no; may be it would depend upon our perspective towards life. Life always continues to give us chances, it is up to us to have an open mind to identify them and pick them up to change our life or just stick to the imperfect ones which we already have with us and keep complaining for the rest of the life. The choices or decisions can be either good or bad depending upon what circumstances do we face going further with those.

How do we know if the decision is good or bad, right or wrong? One might say if I know the decision which I would take or the choice I would make is wrong, why would I do it? This is so very true. The above quote answers to this in such a great way. The experience is the best teacher. And how does one gain this experience, it comes from those bad or wrong choices we had made earlier in our life. But now, I would rather say when it comes to choices, there are no right ones or wrong ones. This might be contrary to what we have been taught or what we might have been following throughout our lives. But, after experiencing these things in life personally, I feel and believe that each choice comes with its own potential merit and consequences further. We make the best decision we can at the time based on what we think and what we feel. If life would have been an erasable slate, how easy it would be to start afresh, right? But unfortunately, we don’t have that facility with life. So when we understand that the choice we made yesterday was not the perfect one and we are facing the consequences of it today, you always have a possibility to grab the best learnings from it and start again with a new choice. Remember, we cannot change the choice we already made, but we always can change the choice we make today. But to do this, the first step would be to take accountability of our own choices or decisions. Blame game is the safest escape route we all follow most of the times to hide the actual story. When I say we, I mean it. I myself had done it quite a few times in my life. It might always not be intentional to do it but the thought of surviving at the nick of that moment, we all do it. It’s a human tendency and we know that it’s not right to do that but still we end up doing the same thing intentionally or unintentionally. Better late than never at all. Though I have personally realized and understood about it quite late, I am glad that I am able to do it at least now and am keen on changing my thought process hereon.

Is it so easy to realize our own mistakes and accept the blame for our own life? Definitely not, but it is neither impossible to do it. It actually looks so difficult because we all have huge expectations in life. We get so influenced by the race of life in focusing what we want that we tend to miss the minute important things to understand what is good for our own life in real. We get carried away by the temporary satisfactions or happiness and end up loosing the permanent ones in our life. I have done it many a times in my life experience that I ignored truths for temporary happiness. Be it the professional life or the personal life, I had many a times ended picking up wrong choices for myself. Sometimes due to the influence I had from others and sometimes I failed to understand what was more real. I was in a phase when that temporary happiness or attention felt more needed than the actual ones. I have lost few best relations because of this attitude of mine for the ones who always saw me as an option and not as a choice. Today, I don’t have a second thought in accepting that I was wrong at that time and I could not understand what was actually best for myself. I know it takes guts to admit the mistakes and I feel doing so is courage and not weakness. Today, when I think about all the wrong choices and wrong decisions I had made in my life, I can connect the dots to get a clear picture, which were like a blurred vision till now. I might have hurt few people by not choosing them over the temporary ones earlier. This has definitely had a very huge impact in my life and I have realized this now when life has given me another chance to rectify my choices and move forward in life with a new positivity. In this process of gaining that attention and so-called temporary happiness, I had lost few amazing friends who were the most important part of my life once. There was so much of silence between us for years and trust me it has always been bothering me inside. I don’t know if it was a guilt that I could not live up to their expectations or if it was my wrong choice of giving other people the priority over the right choice of friendship. But, I am glad that I have got another chance to rectify the mistake I had done earlier. Sometimes, second chances work out even better than the first because we learn from our mistakes.

I totally believe that if the bond and affection between friends is true, nothing between them changes irrespective of a rough patch between them. There might be a small pause in the friendship, but there is never an end for sure. This is absolutely true not only in friendship but any relationships in our lives. Restored relationships give us perspective on our experiences, and deepen our lives. I am sure many of you might also have experienced some similar phases in your lives too. If yes, then trust me and give a try repairing the rough patch in your relations, if you feel they are worth the efforts. Tell the other person how you feel now, because opportunities are lost in the blink of an eye but regret of not sharing your thoughts might last for lifetime. Explaining your emotions or feelings might help you rather than expressing them. This will help you to open the door to a solution instead of arguments. Trust me, the journey of accepting and correcting your mistakes or wrong choices will never look easy. But the final output you get from the amount of hard work you put into repairing those patches would be really worth it and this time it would be much more stronger and would last for life. My life experiences have taught me that we should never leave a true relationship for a few faults. Nobody in the world is perfect, nobody is correct. In the end, affection is always greater than perfection. No matter what you have been through in the past. Remember, there is always a light at the end of every tunnel of the dark. It may seem hard to get to it, but definitely you can do it. Just keep working towards it and you will surely find the positive side of the things. If I can win over the chaos in my mind , I am sure each one of you will be able to do it in your own way with some amount of willingness and hard work. It is time for us to realize, understand and admit that life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% of how we react to it. Regardless of how it goes down, life goes on. Whether you take a chance to move on and take a chance in the unknown. Or Stay behind, locked in the past, thinking of what could’ve been. We cannot change what had already happened in our lives. So let’s not waste out time thinking and regretting about it for very long. Let’s move on, let go and get over it.

Yesterday I was clever, so wanted to change the world. Today, I am wise, so I am changing myself. Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced. I have put up myself at a point where I realize, understand and accept the choices I made. I am not afraid to start over. It’s a chance to rebuild things. Better this time and the way I want it!